Bad Boy vs. Bully

It seems to be a generally accepted rule that girls are attracted to bad boys. There is something so utterly thrilling about being the ‘flavour of the week’ of some really good looking bad boy whose hair is just a little too long and who bends the rules a little out of sync. Bad boys are just sexy and it’s something that genuinely nice guys have to compete with the whole way through school and early twenties. And then EVERYTHING changes.

Suddenly girls are looking for the type of guy that they want to marry. The type of guy who opens doors for you, takes you to nice places, treats you with respect and will bend over backwards to make sure that you’re happy. Everyone wants to marry the nice guy, but let’s be honest, when you’re young and enjoying being a twenty-something what you really want is a bad boy.

Sometimes this can go horribly wrong though. Somehow, somewhere in our minds something goes snap and before you know it you’re dating a guy who isn't just thrilling but who is actually bad for you. Someone who bullies you on some level, or who constantly brings you down, or who pulls you away from the people you love. Sometimes for no apparent reason we end up with guys who make us feel horrible, and to make matters worse, we love it.

It happens quickly and it doesn't matter what your friends say or do, you will not realize it until you either hit rock bottom or long after he has left you for someone else. Your brain will lie to you and tell you that you deserve it, or that it is your fault, or that you’re doing something wrong. You’ll know deep down inside that you shouldn't be feeling this way but this inexplicable need for love of any sort will keep you bound to even the worst of people.

And this is not to say that the guy you’re with is a horrible guy. Hell, he might be one of the good guys. But when two people with personalities that differ vastly, end up together they can be horribly bad for one another.

But not to worry because eventually it’ll reach a point where there is absolutely no point of return and the relationship will end, you’ll slowly start to rebuild your life and then, when the timing is right you’ll realize just how over-rated a bad boy really is and you’ll start looking for the type of guy who makes you happy without even having to try too hard.